Summer Solstice: A Time of Reflection and Thanks....

It was 15 years ago, on the Summer Solstice – the longest day, that I had an accident that changed my life. I won’t go into the details but the result was that I spent a good few months bedridden in hospital and then a long time after that hobbling about on crutches. It was a challenging time for me, but it was also a blessing. Leading up to the accident I had been feeling extremely angry and frustrated at where I was in my life.

Although I was studying one of my passions, photography, I felt financially limited in terms of being able to fund the basic necessities of my course. Film and processing alone were very expensive and then adding to that props and accessories I was gradually starting to fall into debt.

My job was not a rewarding one either. When I first moved to the UK as a recent University graduate with top marks in Art History and Classical Studies, I had high hopes of starting work in a museum or art gallery. My hopes were soon dashed when I wasn’t even able to find a volunteer position. In the end I did find employment in an Art Gallery, but it was in the gift shop. The pay was barely a living wage with the expenses of London and my photography course. I did my best to stay positive but everything seemed to be caving in on me, and then the accident happened.

It was a shock and I spent the first few days scared, crying and feeling very sorry for myself. Fortunately my mom was able to fly over to be with me and that helped me more then I can say. It gave us a unique opportunity to really bond with one another again and I can honestly say that it was a very special time for me (and I think it was for my mom as well). My mom has a great sense of humour so we ended up laughing a lot which really does help put things into perspective. Laughter really is the best medicine!

I was also fortunate enough to work with a manager who was caring and also sensitive and understanding about my situation. If anyone else had been in charge I could have easily been out of a job and out of pay. He made sure I was looked after and that all I had to worry about was my recovery. Although I disliked my job I realized that there were loving and kind people around me who were doing what they could to help me through this difficult time. That meant (and still means) a great deal to me.

When I say that the accident was a blessing most people look at me like I’m an idiot, but really it was. It gave me time to reflect on my life. Where was I headed? What did I want to achieve? Was I truly happy doing what I was doing? And if not, then What action(s) will get me on the road to happiness and fulfilment?

It was because of the accident that I finally had the courage to study Massage Therapy. Aromatherapy and Reflexology soon followed and I now practice professionally. It also gave me the strength to finish and make the most of my photography course. I graduated and worked for a time as an assistant to a photographer and an assistant to a photographer’s agent. Neither of these career paths felt right to me, but instead of putting pressure on myself to carry on with something I didn’t enjoy, I felt strong enough to let them go without guilt or fear. The accident also got me on a more Spiritual path and I began to work actively with Angels and Fairies, which has completely transformed my life.

This year on the 21st of June, I sat in my beautiful sunny garden surrounded by flowers, tomato plants and Fairies. I thought back to the accident and reflected on the many blessings I have to be thankful for and how that one day, 15 years ago changed my life for the better.

Fairy Hiding Amongst The Fuschias.

Window Box Flower Fairy

Summer Solstice Crystal Heart I found this on my early morning Solstice walk.

Good Friends, Sunshine And Olive Tapenade....

As we get older it can become difficult to maintain friendships. There always seems to be something getting in the way of us reaching for the phone or writing a card or letter. Social networking sites don’t really help matters either. Sure we can ‘see’ what our friends have been up to, and keep tabs on their profile but it isn’t the same. It isn’t meaningful communication.

I met my best friend Jessica when we were 16 and had just finished an exam. We walked home together and talked about all sorts of things. A few days later she surprised me by giving me a call and inviting me to a David Bowie concert. It was the beginning of an extremely special and wonderful friendship that has lasted for the better part of 23 years.

Over the past 5 years however it felt like we were starting to drift apart. We both live on different continents and it was becoming increasing difficult to find the time to visit one another. Family commitments and work pressures also played their role, but somehow we managed to keep our friendship going.

I was absolutely overjoyed when I got a message from Jess saying that she was coming over to the UK to visit. It had been far too long! We had a wonderful time together and it really felt like no time had passed at all between us. The weather was on our side and we went for long walks in the country, explored farmers markets, visited some of Kent’s most exciting attractions (sadly we didn’t make it to Tea Pot Island in Maidstone – that has been saved for the next visit!) and hung out in the garden drinking wine and eating good food. We also had a short break in Bruges which gave us the opportunity to explore a wonderful city together. The food was excellent and I can’t say enough about the beer – delicious!

One of the first nights she was here, Jess prepared a wonderful little appetizer for us to eat in the garden. I had never had Tapenade before and I can’t believe how easy it is to make. This is definitely something to enjoy with good friends and good wine. Don’t forget to make a toast to the beauty of true friendship.

Jess’s Friendship and Sunshine Tapenade

Ingredients:

1 x 250 gram container of pitted Kalamata olives (you can use any kind of olives – just make sure they are pitted before you put them in the blender!).

1 clove of garlic.

Drizzle of Olive oil (mixture should be slightly moist and easy to spread).

Pinch of sea salt.

Black pepper to taste.

Directions:

Add all ingredients to a blender and mix well.

Spread on baguette slices and gently warm in the oven.

Serve with red wine in the garden and enjoy with good friends!

Jess’s Friendship and Sunshine Tapenade

Imbolc: The Maiden Returns....

The beginning of February, in the Northern Hemisphere, is a time to celebrate the ancient Celtic festival of Imbolc. We are just beginning to feel the first stirrings of Spring. The days are lengthening, there are signs of growth in the earth and the birds seem to sing more loudly and cheerfully. Brigid the Goddess of Spring has returned and has brought with her the sun, whose rays are warming the earth, bringing it back to life after the cold dark days of winter.

Food wise Imbolc is linked with milk, specifically ewes milk as it’s around this time of year that they begin lactating. For a special Imbolc supper you could have a cheese plate with a hearty salad and some crusty bread on the side. Any type of cheese will do, it doesn’t have to be sheep’s cheese if that isn’t to your liking. Just make sure that it’s natural cheese, nothing coloured or artificial.

As this time of year is about celebrating the return of fertility to the Earth, make time to connect with nature. Go for walks and get out in your garden. It may be too early to start sowing seeds outdoors but you can certainly plant bulbs; crocus, daffodils and tulips are a beautiful addition to any garden. If you don’t have access to a garden, consider buying a house plant. Just make sure that if you share your home with an animal companion the plants aren’t harmful or toxic to them.

Another way to celebrate is to create an altar for your home or garden. I love altars because they give me a special place where I can focus and meditate on my intentions for the upcoming days, weeks or months. They also keep me mindful about the earth, help strengthen my connection to her seasons and remind me of my own unique place in the world.

There really are no hard and fast rules when creating an altar. Have fun and be creative. For Imbolc I tend to use colours that remind me of the lengthening days. I also like to include food which I leave out for the Fairies and birds afterwards. Apples are always a favourite and I make sure I only buy organic ones. I also buy something for my garden and this year I bought some grape hyacinths which I can’t wait to plant.

Over the coming weeks, find ways to honour the earth and reconnect with nature. Whatever you choose to do enjoy yourself, have fun and remember that Spring is on her way!

For my Indoor Imbolc Altar I used;

• A bright yellow scarf that belonged to my grandmother (she always made me happy).
• A Goddess figurine my sister made for me many years ago (thanks sis!).
• A white candle.
• 3 lemon and rose Turkish delights (my grandmother loved them but they also seem to be a particular favourite of the Fairies)
• A glass of organic milk with honey, cinnamon and nutmeg (once again for the Fairies)
• My newly purchased Grape Hyacinths.

Imbolc Altar

Garden Offerings